I’m sure you have all heard of the phrase ‘sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me’ this use to be a playground saying when I was little. How incorrect is this though? I know it has a deeper meaning behind it, but the idea of the phrase itself is absolute rubbish.
The world is full of bad stuff, bad people with lots of negativity. On the other hand, the world is also full of good stuff, good people with lots of positivity. So why it is then that our focus is always shifted to the negativity? Why do we always place our focus on this? All it does is cast shade on the positive.
It makes me happy when someone says something nice to me, but I do struggle to take compliments. I always feel awkward when I’m given one. I over think it, my brain starts thinking how do I act, what do I say as a reply? Most of the time I will just make it into a negative compliment. Someone tells me that they like my hair and I reply with ‘oh my roots are terrible aren’t they and I really need a haircut, I have so many split ends’. Instead I just need to learn to say thank you. That is all that’s needed. That positive compliment can easily be erased though, no matter how happy it made you. Just by someone making a horrible, nasty, and negative comment.
I have often struggled and held on to the negativity. I like to think that since having my children I am a much stronger person than I use to be, as I must be for them. But in the past, I have allowed the comments to overcome my thoughts and that has made me feel so sad. I believed that it must be true just because someone has said it. That comment and that thought sticks, and that is a lot harder to erase.
So why are these comments made? Why do other people feel the need to cast their opinions on us? I believe it’s down to jealously and their own insecurities. Every person in the world is different. We’re not all built the same on purpose. We all have our own identities, and insecurities but we all sparkle in different ways. We’re not about one single thing. We’re about the entire package. So, start looking a little deeper, unravel the negative comments and love each other for who we are.
Next time you’re on social media, or out on the streets just give someone a compliment. If we focus on spreading the love instead of casting the darkness around then maybe the hate in the world won’t seem so big.
Love as always,
Donna Marie Howard